Tom: So, I have news.
Sent at 8:40 AM on Thursday
Sent at 8:41 AM on Thursday
Tom: I spent some time meditating on this Kyla situation, why she might be reaching out to me, why she’d be calling me at 230 in the morning. What I would need to say to her if we spoke.
I tried to work, but had a really difficult time doing so and spoke to one of my best friends about the situation–I couldn’t really function because I needed to know, one way or the other, what she wanted to say.
So I wrote down some notes about the things I wanted to bring up and told her we needed to talk.
Sent at 8:44 AM on Thursday
Tom: We spoke for a couple hours. At first I just told her how messed up contacting me was.
She said the conversation wasn’t going how she had wanted it to. So I gave her the chance. I told her, let’s start over–if I hadn’t said all this, what would you have wanted to talk about.
Sent at 8:46 AM on Thursday
Tom: We spoke about why she would have treated me in such a way.
Sent at 8:47 AM on Thursday
Tom: About her fears and insecurities.
Deb: hang on
Tom: She was scared of being rejected, but she wanted to try again.
She apologized a lot.
And I told her my weirdshitometer would be on high alert for some time.
there would need to be some serious trust building going on.
Sent at 8:51 AM on Thursday
Sent at 8:52 AM on Thursday
Tom: I believe in second chances, and she wants one.
Deb: so you’re back together.
Sent at 8:55 AM on Thursday
Tom: I know how to read her better now. I don’t think I’ll ever be manipulated like that again
And while I believe in second chances–thirds are a little more hard to come by… or nonexistant.
Deb: you don’t have to explain it to me. whatever you want to do, i’m backing it.
Tom: I knew you would.